Wednesday, July 22, 2009

The Great Mom Debate

To work or not to work, that is the question! The moment Rosie the Riveter picked up her drill life hasn't been the same. Rosie's battle cry, “We can do it!” was the shot heard round the world. A new page in history was written. Off went the pearls and apron, up went the hair, and on went the pants. Women were leaving the home and entering the workforce in droves.

With over 600,000 men killed in World War II and hundreds of thousands more injured, there was a need for the woman to step out in faith, seeking a job that would provide food and shelter for her children.

With Rosie the Riveter's children grown with grandchildren of their own, the debate continues. Should mom work outside of the home or not?

Being from both sides of that debate, I see the pros and cons clearly. And with our economy and unemployment at record lows, Christian women are entering the debate and struggling with what the right thing to do is.

Is working outside of the home God-honoring? It depends.

There are many women of the Bible who held jobs outside of the home. The Proverbs 31 woman sold real estate, Lydia was a successful business owner selling scarlet in Ephesus, while Priscilla worked for her husband's tent making business. All were used by God. Your motivation and hearts desire is what does or doesn't make your choice to work God honoring.

To do your will is not God honoring. To do His will is. And if that means providing essential needs for your family then it will bring glory to God. What doesn't bring glory to God is taking yourself from the ministry the Lord has called you to. As a mom, your husband and children are your ministry, your calling. Whatever takes you from them must be God honoring.

Here are a few things that are not God honoring.

*Taking yourself away from your family to work for wants and not needs. (Working to afford your weekly pedicure or gym membership.)

*Working to have a car as nice as your neighbors.

*Reminding your husband you couldn't make financial end meets without your income.

*Using work outside of the home as your reason not to work inside the home.

Call me old-fashioned but I do believe a woman's first and most important calling is her husband and children. If she is working, then her family should be helpful to take a few housekeeping burdens off her plate. But ultimately, this is still mom's responsibility. Mom is the heart of the home, after all.

After being a stay at home mom for almost ten years now, once again I am at the crossroads of working full-time. The necessities being medical benefits, dental benefits and college for my four children. Seeking the Lord for His will and not mine is key.

If “to work or not to work” is the question...”to do God's will and bring him glory and honor“ would have to be the answer.

Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 1Corinthians 10:31


Mari said...

I agree with you. I've been a working Mom. I worked part time until my youngest was in high school, but I would have loved to stay home. I think it is our primary responsibility and I do think we have so many thing we think we "need" that makes us work more.

Denise said...

I am in agreement with you sweetie.

Madison said...

I know lots of women who have a nice balance, family first - but yet work. Corporations are becoming very family friendly.

Anonymous said...

Awe, this is so good. The Prissy in me was sacrificed when I decided to stay at home full time with my 3rd child... Out of necessity, I had to work with the first two... At this point, I'm willing to do what ever it takes to cherish every moment with my kids- we only get them once- I praise God that I can stay, for many can-not

LisaShaw said...

Praying for you now dear sweet sister as you follow God's leading for your family. I love ya.

denise said...

Well put. You got to the heart of a sometimes sensitive issue and you did so with grace and truth. I appreciate you!

Lisa @ Stop and Smell the Chocolates said...

I am blessed to be able to be a stay-at-home mom right now. You said it all so well in this post!!

Adrienne said...

I have to slightly disagree. Although I agree that the home and children should be both parents main priority, I think it's unfair to say a woman is not honoring god if she works because she wants to rather than she has to. I think it's should be her choice to work for whaever reasons just as long she doesn't neglect her family. A lot of working mothers do manage to find the right balance of work and thier children. Having myself been raised in a moderately christian family where both parents who worked outside the home most of my childhood they both shared in the finanical duties as well as the household and childrearing duties, I don't believe houwework and childrearing is primary the mother's duty and the father is just the assistant. Husbanbs also have duties to provide for his family any many ways other than finanical needs like serving them in any way that needed and that should include diving the housework and taking care of the children if his wife as a career.

Shermanators said...

What a refreshing post! I've always been old fashioned myself and feel so out of God's will working full time as a wife. Sadly, my hubby and I went to a private Christian college and right now I am working to pay off our debt. BUT...working in the corporate world has thrown me off. I get weird looks and shaking of heads when I share I want to be a stay-at-home mom. It's so sad. I can't wait to do it one day! I so badly want to serve my hubby and maybe one day kids!! I feel like it was what I was created to do! Thank you for the encouragement! :)


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